Three months, three onsies.

Kio is three months old and he has the onsie to prove it!

This month's onsie was designed by the fabulous Anna. You may remember that she also designed the onise for Kio's first month. Twelve months in the year, but 9 guests at my baby shower. Thus, there will be two more Anna originals to appear during Kio's first year.

Rather than writing four letters to go with her onsies, Anna employed friends that couldn't make it to the party to write letters. This month was a very special letter from daddy! Although the contents are between himself and Kio (and me of course!) I do have to share that he signed it "Shin".

We had a good laugh over that.

Month three has been a big one for Kio. Lots has been going on but most importantly, we're sleeping. 

Both of us.

For hours at a time!

And it is bliss.

In the last twelve months I've learned so much about being a mom. I've read books, googled everything under the sun, asked our pediatrician a million questions and received advice from moms more experienced than myself. But the one person that has taught me the most is Kio. 

Setting schedules, starting routines, deciding how much to eat and when, has nothing to do with me and everything to do with Kio. When he is ready he'll do it and not before. As such, these days I spend less time listening to advice and more time listening to my baby. 

And it's working.

Kio started off the month by going to bed without a fuss. He no longer cries (and cries...and cries) when it's bed time. He eats and then it's lights out. A little less crying is always a good thing.

After that he decided that he no longer needed to eat every two or three hours in the night. Bed time is around 9:30 (late enough to see daddy off to work) and he now sleeps until 4:00 before waking again. Even then it's just for a quick snack and he's out for at least a couple more hours.

Hallelujah!

With all this sleeping going on I now have more 'me-time'. My dishes get washed, my laundry gets done, my house gets cleaned and my blog gets written. This was actually published on the 11th, Kio's three month birthday!

Another big change for us is that Kio now sleeps in in crib at night. Up until a little over a week ago Kio slept with me. It made night feedings much easier but also meant that I was constantly worried about rolling on him or smothering him with my blankets - making what sleep I was getting not all that restful. On the day that Kio started sleeping in his crib he also started trying to roll onto his tummy. He didn't quite make the full roll, but someday he will. I don't think that I'd ever get any sleep if I had to worry about him rolling out of bed on top of everything else.

I had researched how to transition your baby from co-sleeping to their crib in books and on the Net. I'd also asked questions on a forum I hang out on and come up with a plan of attack.

Not necessary.

I placed Kio in his crib at bedtime ready to start employing all of the sleeping techniques I'd armed myself with...but he was sleeping soundly within minutes.

Totally sprawled out in his own bed. Love it!

 

Sleeping was the big one for us this month but there were also a few other firsts.

 

 

Baby's First Sushi

 

 Baby's First Passport Photo

 

 

This is going to be his picture for the next five years. We also had a good laugh over that - and will continue to each time we see the picture.

 

Finally, Kio had his first laugh. He often smiles and giggles when tickled, or when hanging out on his play mat. He wakes up happy and smiling every morning but we hadn't heard a real laugh until last week. Shin was playing with him and I heard the best sound ever.

 

My son letting out a big old belly laugh.

 

From two rooms away.

 

Sounds like he's going to have his mom's laugh. I couldn't be more proud.

母の日 (Mother's Day)

I always said that I would never have kids. Playing auntie to six gorgeous, bright, unique, totally bonkers nieces and nephews has always been enough. In fact, last December I became a great aunt to twin boys - now that's definitely enough!

Side note: the term 'great aunt' really does make one feel old.

While many of my friends were settling down, getting married, buying houses and having children I enjoyed traveling, buying furniture with corners, and wearing shoes that laughed in the face of sensibility. I had late nights and late mornings with no one to answer to except for my cat.

Then, a few years ago, something changed. Perhaps my wanderlust had been quenched. Or it could be, subconsciously, I was worried that I would end up as "that crazy cat lady". Of course, there is also the possibility that my timebomb of a biological clock had exploded. Whatever the reason you know how the story goes (if not, you can check it out here) and on February 11th I became a mommy.

From the moment Kio was born I started doing what needed to be done in order to keep him happy, healthy and safe. Through sleepless nights, giving up dairy and cracked nipples, I didn't really take the time to officially think of myself as a mother. Although, there have been a few times where it has hit me in the face like a tonne of bricks (or a fountain of pee). 

I have started back to work one night a week. As such, Thursdays have become daddy and Kio day. I am usually gone no more than four hours, but on a couple of occasions I've had a little extra work to do and stayed out for about six hours. I leave enough milk for an army and Shin bottle feeds the baby while I'm gone.

A little while ago I called Shin after work and I heard Kio screaming into the phone. The little guy had decided that he wasn't going to drink from his bottle and hadn't eaten since I left the house. He (Kio, not Shin) had been crying for hours.

Overcome with guilt, I raced home as fast as I could and opened the door to find both Kio and Shin in a state. I immediately fed the baby and then made Shin one of his favourite meals. As calm was once again restored to the Hirano household it hit me - I am the mommy and only I can do this.

What a terrifying yet wonderful thought.

Kio's little meltdown happened a few days before Mother's Day. So I shouldn't have been surprised (but I was) when the delivery man showed up that Sunday with two bunches of flowers.

Red carnations (the Mother's Day flower of choice in Japan) from Kio for being a good mommy.

And a beautiful potted ajisai (hydrangea) bush from Shin. Also for being a good mommy.

My passport may collect a little more dust between trips. My heels may see a little more of the closet. My late nights may no longer followed by late mornings. I am a mommy now, and I wouldn't change that for anything in the world.

子どもの日 (Children's Day)

The other day I decided that it was time to begin filling out Kio's baby book. I had been noting things down on slips of paper or saving important firsts in my phone but hadn't actually started filling out the book. As my time for doing such things is fairly limited recently (as demonstrated by the frequency I add to this blog), I figured that I should just cut out the middle man and write things directly into the book.

I was flipping through trying to decide where to start, when I came to the heading Baby's First Holiday with the subheading Gifts Received. I originally thought that I would have to wait until Christmas to fill out this page but then I remembered that Kodomo no hi (Children's Day) was coming up in Japan and Kio had already received his present.

First a little history lesson.

Traditionally, the fifth day of the fifth month was a day for celebrating the the health and strength of young boys, and third day of the third month, the Doll's Festival (Hina Matsuri), was for celebrating little girls. Now, May 5th is a national holiday for both girls and boys to celebrate their health, growth and happiness. However, there is still a focus on little boys.

Lesson finished.

Before Kio was even a month old, Shin's dad had generously offered to buy a kabuto (Japanese traditional helmet) to display on Kodomo no hi. I was rather reluctant to accept his offer for three reasons: 1) Lack of storage and display space in our apartment. 2) They can be outlandishly expensive and Shin's dad is the type to go overboard. 3) Honestly, they're just not that nice.

As grandpa Hirano seemed rather disappointed Shin offered up a compromise, why not buy Kio a set of Koi no bori (Carp Streamers / Flags).

Years ago I took a road trip around the island of Shikoku and saw hundreds of colourful carp streamers strung up over rivers all over the island. Since then I have always wanted one.

Now we have three!

Right, time for another little lesson.

Koi no bori are displayed outside the home (in our case, from the balcony) to signify that there is a boy or boys living there. The black fish represents the father, the red one the mother, and then one smaller fish for each of the boys living in the house. Kio's streamer is blue. The top streamer on our set has Kio's name on it: 希於.

 

The fish are huge! The name streamer and daddy fish are 1.5 meters long but I've seen some that are over three meters in length. They do look lovely when they're stretched out in the wind. They don't look so lovely when stuck in the spider infested bushes three storys down.

Sorry Shin, I just thought they needed a little adjusting.

As with most Japanese holidays, Kodomo no hi is celebrated with food but we've started our own tradition. Yesterday we took Kio shopping and Shin bought him a new outfit and I bought him a book. A little something traditional and a little something Hirano, just how we like it.

Happy Children's Day Kio,

love and kisses from mommy and daddy!